It is written in Bible, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a companion who will help him.”
Marriage is the base and whole premise of human life. So, for what human get married?
The purpose of Marriage
When God made the first human, Adam, he is alone in the Eden which every living have spouse. Human has a habit of being perfect through seeking deferent sex. Human was made to be perfect with a person of the opposite sex. So human feels unlimited loneliness by oneself. The loneliness is instinctive thing. God gave us “Marriage” for healing human loneliness.
To be a good helper
Man and woman have different characters. They have different bent and function, gender roles. Therefore they can support each lack as a best helper originally. Man and woman get married to be the best helper who accomplishes the great deal of mission from God.
To provide descendants
God blessed us and told us, “Multiply and fill the earth and subdue it. Be masters over the fish and birds and all the animals.”
The commandment is still alive in this generation. But since Jesus Christ came on the earth, the kingdom of God has started to all the nations, the new creation that whoever believes in Christ to be God’s children has started. The scripture meaning is getting changed as spiritual descendant’s prosperity.
Although, the commandment must be still alive partially this generation. One of the purposes of Marriage is to provide descendants.
This is a main premise of Marriage life to believe in God was tied the knot us.
We can make a happy family by believing in God created us as a pair.
There are 3 points for pair. Precious one to have same value.
Like a pair of gloves is important both of right and left, God loves both of husband and wife equally.
How God loves each of them, He gave his only son Jesus Christ for our sins, fails. He died on the cross to pay our burden and sins. Husband and wife are very valuable because God gave his life to them.
To understand position and role
The role was given by God to husband and wife is “to obey your husband” for wife, is “to love your wife” for husband (Eppesians5). The role of happy couple is “husband loves wife” and “wife obeys husband”. As they follow these commandments, the family will be happy to keep their love and respecting each other.
The pair is to be one and help
When husband and wife cooperate and help each other, they will do the best work.
Even only right glove or left glove, they would not do their mission. When husband and wife cooperate together, they will live the best life.
The meaning of existence of children
It is written in Bible, “Children are a gift from the Lord; they are a reward from him. Children born to a young man are like sharp arrows in a warrior’s hands. (Psalm127)”
We should recognize children are given by God as “a gift”, “a reward”, “sharp arrows in a warrior’s hands”. It means children do not belong to parents.
Parents should grow up children carefully, because children are given by God as gifts.
Parents should grow them up with all of their heart to face the direction which God will please.
Children will live through hardship which parents do not hope in their life. These hardships are necessary at all for children. Parents have to grow up children with firm faith and righteousness in preparation for such as hardship, children will pull through them.
Rewards are recompense for the result of making effort. We have to pray, prepare and make an effort for them during children are sleeping.
Like an arrow needs to hit a target, nurturing needs clear target.
The purpose of Christian life is “To give glory to God”. Life as a Christian gives you a different perspective and a brand new purpose to the way in which those who do not believe in God live everyday life.
Parents have to focus their children’s life target to God. Parents should put their purpose of life not to be selfish, but to the permanent thing- to give glory to God.
How to make nurturing family?
Nurturing is to make environment children grow up with fresh mind. Where is the family like it?
To feed children good food
Nurturing family is the place to feed children good and healthy food. Recently, children do not like to have meal at home because it is easy to get instant food, restaurant conveniently. At the same time, mother’s existence is not getting important.
To be filled with spiritual mind
It is important that not only to be filled with food, but also spiritual mind. Children will seek another place or people to love them if they can not get affection at home. They have to be raised in a loving home. It is important that not only to be filled with mind, but also to rest at home as well. Even if children are in a battle outside, parents should make their home a place of peace.
To be encouraged and healed
Honestly, husband, wife and children are damaged from outside of family. Parents should not touch children’s hurt but heal their mind with encouragement. Nurturing family is to be encouraged each other. So , they feel restorative a day, will get power to face to tomorrow.